08 December, 2006

mengasihi tanpa mengatakan sesuatu

Subject: Ida Arimurti mengasihi tanpa mengatakan sesuatu'


Saya ditraktir makan mie di kedai mie yang terkenal. Harganya tidak
mahal dan rasanya sangat lezat sekali. Kami duduk di depan meja panjang yang
dapat menampung sekitar sepuluh orang bila mengelilingi meja. Meja
sudah terisi enam orang, saya, teman saya dan empat orang pengunjung.

Ketika asyik makan, satu keluarga baru duduk di dekat kami. Tepatnya
di antara teman saya dan pengunjung lainnya. Mereka telah memesan mie dan
sedang menunggu. Keluarga tersebut terdiri dari sepasang suami istri
yang masih muda dan seorang anak yang berusia sekitar enam tahun. Mereka
keluarga yang jauh dari sederhana. Pakaiannya agak kusam dan berbau.
Si anak kelihatannya baru sembuh dari suatu penyakit yang tidak kami
ketahui dan sedang menarik ingusnya keluar masuk. Ingusnya seperti angka
sebelas dan terkadang seperti angka satu dengan warna kuning kehijau-hijauan.
Si ibu dengan penuh kasih sayang mengelap ingus yang tidak berhenti
keluar masuk hidung anaknya. Pasangan itu sangat bahagia melihat anaknya
bermain sambil tertawa. Sepertinya makan mie merupakan perayaan menyambut
kesembuhannya. Saat mie datang keluarga tersebut makan dengan lahap.

Keadaan tersebut tidak berlaku bagi kami semua terkecuali teman saya.
Bagi kami berlima (termasuk saya) keadaan tersebut merupakan bencana dan
penyiksaan. Bayangkan aja, bagaimana rasanya makan mie dengan mencium
satu keluarga yang bau badannya tidak enak. Belum lagi melihat dan
mendengar ingus yang ditarik keluar masuk dan sesekali dibersihkan oleh ibunya.
Setiap kali memakan mie sambil meminum kuahnya, rasanya seperti ingus
telah tercampur dengan makanan dan membuat selera makan hilang. Tidak
berapa lama kemudian, keempat pelanggan yang duduk semeja dengan kami
meninggalkan meja satu persatu- tanpa menghabiskan makanan. Melihat
ini ada rasa kepahitan yang terpancar diwajah keluarga muda itu, seperti
rasa rendah diri dan terasing melihat sikap saya dan empat pengunjung
lainnya.

Tetapi itu tidak berlangsung lama, terutama saat mereka melihat teman
saya, keceriaan mereka pulih kembali. Teman saya tetap menikmati mie
dengan segala kecuekannya. Seolah-olah tidak ada bau disekitarnya dan
tidak ada suara ingus yang didengar. Saya tidak bisa berbuat banyak
selain belajar cuek dan menghabiskan sisa mie. Lagi pula saya ditraktir makan
dan tidak berhak mengajukan hal-hal yang aneh-aneh dan tidak sopan.

Selesai makan, kami masih duduk dua puluh menit sebelum meninggalkan kedai
makanan. Saya heran dengan tingkah teman saya yang diluar kebiasaannya.
Biasanya setelah makan, ia hanya duduk paling lama sepuluh menit.
Sekali lagi saya harus mengikuti kemauan teman saya dengan jengkel.

Akhirnya kami keluar meninggalkan kedai dan keluarga muda, saya merasa
lega. Dalam perjalanan pulang, teman saya mengatakan ia sangat
terganggu duduk di samping keluarga tersebut. Ia merasakan rasa bau dan merasa
terganggu dengan suara ingus anaknya. Ia merasakan tepat seperti yang
saya rasakan.

Teman saya juga mengatakan, jika ia meninggalkan keluarga tersebut di
saat mereka bergembira, keluarga itu akan merasa terpukul, tidak berharga,
terasing dan putus asa. Si suami sedang memberi yang terbaik bagi
keluarganya. Mereka bersukacita merayakan kesembuhan anaknya. Si suami
telah mengeluarkan uang yang bagi mereka cukup mahal dari hasil kerja
keras hanya untuk memberikan yang terbaik bagi keluarganya. Uang itu
tidak begitu banyak untuk ukuran kami tetapi tidak bagi keluarga itu.

Saya sangat terkejut mendengar penuturan teman saya. Dan tidak
menyangka teman saya telah melakukan sesuatu yang luar biasa bagi keluarga itu.
Dengan caranya yang khas, bertahan makan mie sampai habis dan menunggu
dua puluh menit setelah makan, telah memberi semangat baru bagi keluarga
itu.

Saya teringat bagaimana rasa kepahitan, rendah diri dan terasing di
wajah kedua suami istri ketika melihat pelanggan yang lain meninggalkan meja
tanpa menghabiskan makanan dan melihat tingkah saya. Saya juga
teringat bagaimana pasangan ini kembali ceria begitu melihat sikap teman saya
yang cuek.

Pertama kali dalam hidup ini, saya menyadari dan menyaksikan bagaimana
mengasihi sesama tanpa mengatakan sesuatu benar-benar tidak mustahil.
Ini benar-benar keajaiban. Ajaib bagaimana semua ayat-ayat di dalam
Alkitab tentang mengasihi sesama dapat diwujudkan tanpa perkataan dalam waktu
sesingkat itu. Cukup hanya dengan meneruskan makan mie sampai habis.

Masa bodoh dengan sikap saya dan pengunjung lain yang tidak terpuji.
Menunggu dua puluh menit setelah selesai makan. Yang terakhir menahan rasa bau
untuk menyempurnakan segalanya telah menunjukkan suatu keajaiban kasih
dan dilakukan oleh seorang teman. Ajaib bagaimana teman saya menegor saya
tanpa mengatakan sesuatu. Ia tidak menuduh tetapi cukup telak memukul
saya. Saya merasa sangat terpukul, malu tetapi tidak marah. Saya
kembali mengingatkan diri sendiri bagaimana mudahnya mengatakan mengasihi
sesame tetapi tidak melakukannya.

01 November, 2006

Filosofi Pensil

oleh : Anthony Dio Martin

"Setiap orang membuat kesalahan. Itulah sebabnya, pada setiap pensil
ada penghapusnya" (Pepatah Jepang)

Kali ini saya ingin menceritakan kepada Anda sebuah kisah penuh
hikmah dari sebatang pensil. Dikisahkan, sebuah pensil akan segera
dibungkus dan dijual ke pasar. Oleh pembuatnya, pensil itu
dinasihati mengenai tugas yang akan diembannya. Maka, beberapa
wejangan pun diberikan kepada si pensil. Inilah yang dikatakan oleh
si pembuat pensil tersebut kepada pensilnya.

"Wahai pensil, tugasmu yang pertama dan utama adalah membantu orang
sehingga memudahkan mereka menulis. Kamu boleh melakukan fungsi apa
pun, tapi tugas utamamu adalah sebagai alat penulis. Kalau kamu
gagal berfungsi sebagai alat tulis. Macet, rusak, maka tugas utamamu
gagal."

"Kedua, agar dirimu bisa berfungsi dengan sempurna, kamu akan
mengalami proses penajaman. Memang meyakitkan, tapi itulah yang akan
membuat dirimu menjadi berguna dan berfungsi optimal".

"Ketiga, yang penting bukanlah yang ada di luar dirimu. Yang
penting, yang utama dan yang paling berguna adalah yang ada di dalam
dirimu. Itulah yang membuat dirimu berharga dan berguna bagi
manusia".

"Keempat, kamu tidak bisa berfungsi sendirian. Agar bisa berguna dan
bermanfaat, maka kamu harus membiarkan dirimu bekerja sama dengan
manusia yang menggunakanmu".

"Kelima. Di saat-saat terakhir, apa yang telah engkau hasilkan
itulah yang menunjukkan seberapa hebatnya dirimu yang sesungguhnya.
Bukanlah pensil utuh yang dianggap berhasil, melainkan pensil-pensil
yang telah membantu menghasilkan karya terbaik, yang berfungsi
hingga potongan terpendek. Itulah yang sebenarnya paling mencapai
tujuanmu dibuat".

Sejak itulah, pensil-pensil itu pun masuk ke dalam kotaknya,
dibungkus, dikemas, dan dijual ke pasar bagi para manusia yang
membutuhkannya.

Pembaca, pensil-pensil ini pun mengingatkan kita mengenai tujuan dan
misi kita berada di dunia ini. Saya pun percaya bahwa bukanlah tanpa
sebab kita berada dan diciptakan ataupun dilahirkan di dunia ini.
Yang jelas, ada sebuah purpose dalam diri kita yang perlu untuk
digenapi dan diselesaikan.

Sama seperti pensil itu, begitu pulalah diri kita yang berada di
dunia ini. Apa pun profesinya, saya yakin kesadaran kita mengenai
tujuan dan panggilan hidup kita, akan membuat hidup kita menjadi
semakin bermakna.

Hilang arah

Tidak mengherankan jika Victor Frankl yang memopulerkan Logoterapi,
yang dia sendiri pernah disiksa oleh Nazi, mengemukakan "tujuan
hidup yang jelas, membuat orang punya harapan serta tidak mengakhiri
hidupnya". Itulah sebabnya, tak mengherankan jika dikatakan bahwa
salah satu penyebab terbesar dari angka bunuh diri adalah kehilangan
arah ataupun tujuan hidup. Maka, dari filosofi pensil di atas kita
belajar mengenai lima hal penting dalam kehidupan.

Pertama, hidup harus punya tujuan yang pasti. Apapun kerja, profesi
atau pun peran yang kita mainkan di dunia ini, kita harus berdaya
guna. Jika tidak, maka sia-sialah tujuan diri kita diciptakan.
Celakanya, kita lahir tanpa sebuah instruksi ataupun buku manual
yang menjelaskan untuk apakah kita hadir di dunia ini. Pencarian
akan tujuan dan panggilan kita, menjadi tema penting selama kita
hidup di dunia.

Yang jelas, kehidupan kita dimaknakan untuk menjadi berguna dan
bermanfaat serta positif bagi orang-orang di sekitar kita, minimal
untuk orang-orang terdekat. Jika tidak demikian, maka kita useless.
Tidak ada gunanya. Sama seperti sebatang pensil yang tidak bisa
dipakai menulis, maka ia tidaklah berguna sama sekali.

Kedua, akan terjadi proses penajaman sehingga kita bisa berguna
optimal, oleh karena itulah, sering terjadi kesulitan, hambatan
ataupun tantangan. Semuanya berguna dan bermanfaat sehingga kita
selalu belajar darinya untuk menjadi lebih baik. Ingat kembali soal
Lee Iacocca, salah satu eksekutif yang justru menjadi besar dan
terkenal, setelah dia didepak keluar dari mobil Ford. Pengalaman itu
justru menjadi pemacu semangat baginya untuk berhasil di Chrysler.

Ingat pula, Donald Trump yang sempat diguncang masalah finansial dan
nyaris bangkrut. Namun, kebangkrutannya itulah yang justru menjadi
pelajaran dan motivasi baginya untuk sukses lebih langgeng. Kadang
penajaman itu 'sakit'. Namun, itulah yang justru akan memberikan
kesempatan kita mengeluarkan yang terbaik.

Ketiga, bagian internal diri kitalah yang akan berperan. Saya sering
menyaksikan banyak artis, ataupun bintang film yang terkenal, justru
yang hebat bukanlah karena mereka paling cantik ataupun paling
tampan. Tetapi, kemampuan dalam diri mereka, filosofi serta semangat
merekalah yang membuat mereka menjadi luar biasa. Demikian pula pada
diri kita. Pada akhirnya, apa yang ada di dalam diri kita seperti
karakter, kemampuan, bakat, motivasi, semangat, pola pikir itulah
yang akan lebih berdampak daripada tampilan luar diri kita.

Keempat, pensil pun mengajarkan agar bisa berfungsi sempurna kita
harus belajar bekerja sama dengan orang lain. Bayangkanlah seorang
aktor atau aktris yang tidak mau diatur sutradaranya. Bayangkan
seorang anak buah yang tidak mau diatur atasannya. Ataupun seorang
service provider yang tidak mau diatur oleh pelanggannya. Mereka
semua tidak akan berfungsi sempurna. Agar berhasil, kadang kita
harus belajar dari pensil untuk 'tunduk' dan membiarkan diri kita
berubah menjadi alat yang sempurna dengan belajar dan mendengar dari
ahlinya. Itulah sebabnya, kemampuan untuk belajar bekerja sama
dengan orang lain, mendengarkan orang lain, belajar dari 'guru' yang
lebih tahu adalah sesuatu yang membuat kita menjadi lebih baik.

Terakhir, pensil pun mengajarkan kita meninggalkan warisan yang
berharga melalui karya-karya yang kita tinggalkan. Tugas kita bukan
kembali dalam kondisi utuh dan sempurna, melainkan menjadikan diri
kita berarti dan berharga. Itulah filosofi 'memberi dan melayani'.

Yang penting, hingga pada akhir kehidupan kita ada karya ataupun
hasil berharga yang mampu kita tinggalkan.....

01 September, 2006

Is your birthday day of the month?

Is your birthday day 1 of the month?
Your Life

You are very curious and dedicative. When you are interested in something,
everything else has to wait. This is your quality. But if you learn to be
more patient and complete what you have started, you will be successful in
life. !
Your Love

You believe in love at first sight. You won't wait to learn more about the
person. Vise versa, people who fail to impress you will hardly get a chance
to be your friend. Your emotion is on the extreme. You can only love or
hate, nothing in between and this often shows in your _________expression. Try not to
end a relationship in a quarrel.
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Is your birthday day 2 of the month?
Your Life

You have great common sense but usually fail to follow through. This might
happens because you are too busy with your mission and shut yourself from
the outside world. You are clever and profound so there's a slight chance
for self-control problem.
Your Love

Your love progress slowly, and quietly. You seem! to be contented with your
unrequited love. Your are a romantic and loyal lover.
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Is your birthday day 3 of the month?
Your Life

Although you are innocent and romantic but your _________expression often mislead
others that you are an active, fun lovi! ng kid. Because of your double
personality, it's hard for others to really know the real you. You are
careful and patient.
Your Love

Your love is the greatest which often surprises others. No one can bring you
to light when you are in love. Your confidence
might lead you to the track your parents disagree .
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Is your birthday day 4 of the month?
Your Life

You usually think before acting which makes your life quite easy. But you
often are the one who give yourself a hard time by being paranoid. People
might not truly understand you but you are really nice to be around. You are
cheerful and friendly.
Your Love

Still water runs deep, that's what you are. You always surprise others with
your new character when you are in love. Your love trap often comes
unexpectedly and your love life is full of surprises.
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Is your birthday day 5 of the month?
Your Life

Although you are on the quiet side, but you enjoy excitement and changes.
Routine is something you cannot stand. Because of your extreme confidence,
you hardly ask others for opinion. You believe in leading your own life, and
you have got the gift in doing so.
Your Love

Nothing can stop you from making progress in your love life. Once you are in
love, you feel the ownership of your lover. A third party can only makes
your jealousy becomes worse.
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Is your birthday day 6 of the month?
Your Life

You are generous with people in need, sometimes to an extreme that people
find you nosey. Your hidden courage and dedication often surprise others.
Your imagination is extremely unique.
Your Love

Your love life is on the smooth track because it grows from friendship.
Although you may not make a sweet lover but your sincerity bring happiness
to your couple.
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Is your birthday day 7 of the month?
Your Life

You are sensitive to changes around you but your feeling is hardly
expressed. You hate exaggerations. Under your quiet personality, you are
rather stubborn and self-centered. These qualities are the force behind your
extreme persistence.
Your Love

You have enormous courage to please your lover. Your relationship often
progress quickly.
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Is your birthday day 8 of the month?
Your Life

You have pleasant and friendly personality. People look u to your wit and
imagination. You are unpredictable and hardly complete what you started,
which sometimes create negative impact to people around you.
Your Love

Falling in love becomes your routine. Most of the time you are lucky. You
fascinate people with good taste but you never have enough with one.
Although your love progresses very fast, it never lasts.
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Is your birthday day 9 of the month?
your Life
You often have problem in promoting yourself, just because you don't know
how to express your true self. On the other hand, you don't really care what
they think. This is why people misunderstand you until they really get a
chance to learn about your pleasant personality.
Opposite sex find you mysterious and worth searching. Your wit is remarkable
but sometimes you are too fast to follow.
Your Love

You won't reveal your feeling even after dreaming about the same guy over
and over. Your first love lasts forever. You are responsible to the feeling
of your lover. The chance to betray your lover is none. You have luck with
children. You Will be Happy Always with u r Love Marraige. and she
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Is your birthday day 10 of the month?
Your Life

You are very capable. If you are a woman, you have high chance to be a
renowned workingwoman. If you are a man, your path to fame and honor is
near. As an innovator, you are not a good follower. You are good in
implementing your imagination and share it with
others. You are always well dressed.
Your Love

You often lose your love ones from being too jealous. You always feel like
you ow! n the person you fall in love with and that often blows your
relationship.
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Is your birthday day 11 of the month?
Your Life
You are gracious, elegant and prudent. People admire your qualities and some
even become jealous of you. You are realistic, flexible and adaptable. You
are remarkably kind and moral person.
Your Love

You are willing to sacrifice yourself for the one you love. Yo! ur lover will
always have your gentleness, care and loyalty. You will always be happy to
hand around the one you love.
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Is your birthday day 12 of the month?
Your Life

You are friendly, humorous and full of energy. You are open-minded and do
not! care for minor details. Your weak point is your hot temper.
Your Love

You are willing to start off in one-sided love affairs because you strongly
believe that you will eventually win his/her heart. On the other hand, once
you are together, you always want to do things your way, which is often the
fire starter. You usually run in and out of love quickly.
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Is your birthday day 13 of the month?
Your Life

You are sincere and easy going. Flattering and charming around are not your
style. You care so much for freedom that often leads you to the difficult
path. Because of your sincerity, most people find you easy to be around
although you are sometimes too straightforward.
Your Love

Your gentleness, care and sincerity make you an attractive person.
Eventhough you don't intend to be charming, but you naturally are,
especially in the eyes of opposite sex.
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Is your birthday
day 14 of the month?

Your Life

You are so confident that sometimes you forget about the people around you.
If you have to be in one of the two teams, you will choose to be in the
winning team. On the other hand, you are kind and caring but above all, you
care for your own benefits. Your imagination is
unique and often gets implemented shortly after it comes across.
Your Love

You will not get soft with the one you don't really like, no matter how hard
he/she tries. But once you feel for someone you have chosen, there's no
getting back.
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Is your birthday
day 15 of the month?

Your Life

You are outgoing and love to be at the center of attention. From the
outside, you may seem flashy, flirty, and tricky but your true self is
strong, full of hope to be the leader. When you
fail to convince someone, you will get frustrated, and perhaps let your
temper shows.
Your Love

You are emotional. Many can win your heart at once, but not for long. This
is why you hardly win a decent relationship.
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Is your birthday ! day 16 of the month?

Your Life

You always follow the good and the right instead of listening to your heart.
Another word, you are a perfectionist. You care for every word people say
about you. You often seen isolated while you are, by nature, curious and a
dreamer who is ready to get over the edge to make
your dream comes true.
Your Love

You often fall in love with a person who is much different from you, in age
and other aspects. Your relationship grows on friendship. Love at fist sight
is not your style.
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Is your birthday day 17 of the month?

Your Life

You neither want to be interfered nor have the desire to mess with others'
life. But you are friendly and occasionally a party animal. You are always
in a circle of friends. You often do things in your own way that
occasionally go beyond the acceptable limit. People may find you childish
and not very attractive in that sense.
Your Love

Your fun-loving character attracts opposite sex. Many of those are great.You
often find yourself trapped among a few great guys while you have to choose
only one.
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Is your birthday day 18 of the month?

Your Life

At first glance, people think you are quiet type of person. Actually you are
cheerful, but conditionally. You will show your joyful character only in
good mood. One the other hand, when you are moody, no one would dare to be
around. Because of your emotion fluctuation and frank character, some find
you hard to be around.
Your Love

You hardly show your feeling towards opposite sex no matter how much you
like him/her. Your partner also has similar character so your love affairs
often take quite a while to flourish. Time tells it all. Your sincerity
makes you very attractive.
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Is your birthday day 19 of the month?
Your Life

You are great in managing everything in your life and this is how you gain
respect from others. Because of this quality, you sometimes feel that you
are better than the rest. Extreme confidence might lead you! to the wrong
path. You are a free bird and want to lead your
own life.

Your Love
You love life is rather different from others'. When you are in love,
nothing can stop you. You may often fight with your partner but, soon after
that, you will make up in a way that surprises others.
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Is your birthday day 20 of the month?
Your Life

You are prudent, circumspect and take things seriously. Before you make any
move, you will think of a few alternatives that might take a while. You are
patient, imaginative and target oriented. You value friendship more than
anything else.
Your Love
You usually study your partner carefully before making any move. You never
demand anything beyond the natural quality of that person. Your sincerity
doesn't bring excitement in your love life but it brings deeply grown
relationship.
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Is your birthday day 21 of the month?
Your Life

You are curious and a true follower. You can please someone so much that it
seem like you are trying to charm that person. You hide your disagreement
under your smiling face. This is a charming quality of yours .

Your Love
You are quite unlucky in love. You are loved by someone you don't like while
your dream man is so far away. Your love life is occasionally under
turbulence. Sometimes you don't have the clear view of the guy r gal in your
heart.
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Is your birthday
day 22 of the month?

Your Life

You have the boss character, but not a leader. Most people look up to you
for your capability and confidence although they find you quite stubborn.
You should list! en more to others. You are a unique and charming individual.

Your Love

You hardly take the moderate track. You either love or hate someone. Whom
you call friends are the chosen ones. If any of them betray you, you won't
let them get away without having hard time.
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Is your birthday day 23 of the month?

Your Life

You never live your life in the way others want you to. You are an
independent individual who loves challenges and excitement. You are ready to
face with the result of your decision. You are usually the one your friends
count on.
Your Love
Because you love excitements, you occasionally get involved in forbidden
love affairs. You may fall in love with a married person and no one can stop
you from making progress. You are very charming, although you might not
realize it.
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Is your birthday
day 24 of the month?

Your Life

You are very optimistic and that's why you always enjoy life. You are gifted
in entertaining others. Your friends love and trust you. You'll be the first
they come to when they are in need of someone to speak their heart out.
Your Love
Sometimes you fall in love just because you want to be in love, not that you
really like that person. You always be seen as a sweet couple but you can't
really get over your love ones from past. Your partner is usually crazy
about you because you are remarkably charming and
romantic.
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Is your birthday day 25 of the month?
Your Life

You are a warrior. No obstacle can stop you from reaching your goal. You
always keep yourself busy. This quality plus your responsibility will
eventually bring you success.
Your Love
You adore your partner as the number one priority. You value your love one
more than yourself. Your love is the greatest of all and your have potential
to get married young.
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Is your birthday day 26 of the month?
Your Life

You are always curious and responsive to changes. Routine life is not the
way you choose to live. Travelling is your favorite hobby because excitement
is what you are after.
Your Love
You will not stand being around the one you dislike. Your love comes and
goes quickly. You can be deeply in love but soon after you will be looking
around for the next one.
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Is your birthday day 27 of the month?
Your Life

You are sensitive and vulnerable. Tears often run down your cheeks even when
the matter is not that bad. This might be the result from being to
pessimistic. You might seem cold on the shell, but your inner self is a kind
loving person.

Your Love
You will be elegantly dressed, no matter how casually dressed your date may
be. You are emanding in love and sometimes to an unacceptable extend.
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Is your birthday day 28 of the month?
Your Life
You are a capable person but you usually underestimate your own ability.
This is the cause of missing numbers of opportunity to step forward. If you
try to give yourself a chance, you can be successful in life. Try to see
things on the bright side and you will be happier than ever.
Your Love
You are quite unlucky in love. The one in your arm is not the one in your
heart. Your love has so many ups and downs. You often chicken out before
seeing any progress in love.
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Is your birthday day 29 of the month?
Your Life

You can trust your sixth sense. Life is exciting so routine job is not your
interest. You have great ideas and fantastic imagination. You often feel
tired of things and people ar! ound you.
Your Love
You can tell what's in the mind of another person just from looking into
his/her eyes. You are paranoid and jealous and these are the cause of fights
between you and your lover.
Sometimes the thing you believe in is just your imagination.
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Is your birthday day 30 of the month?
Your Life

You are always surrounded by a circle of friends. You are friendly and fun
to be with. Though you occasionally disappoint them by being stubborn, but
over all, they love your qualities.
Your Love
You want to have full control of your lo! ve and that's not a nice way to
treat your partner. You take your time in saying yes to his wedding proposal
or if you are a man, you will not propose anyone until you are certainly
confident which might take ages.

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Is your birthday day 31 of the month?
Your Life
Your emotion is hard to predict. You can be sad this minute and happy in the
next. People might find it difficult to follow your emotion and understand
you. You tend to take things seriously.
Your Love
You take your time to study a person before falling in love. Once you decide
that he or she is the one, no one can stop you from making progress, even
your partner.